Yup. I have to put my blogging on hiatus. For one, I’ve been given a mission to keep Glowstick safe and some how get my daughter straight (she’s in the above picture with Glowstick).
Within the last 48 hours, new info has surfaced on my daughter. It’s not good. Especially since, I’ve taken the time to get her into the programs she needs.
In her own way, she’s head butting the right thing to do and is choosing her toxic master. I can only hope and pray that this toxin won’t vomit out who she really is. Over my dead body, she loses herself to this demon.
I’ve had to make the decision to file for custody of my granson. Sadly, this will put her at odds with me but the baby is the innocent victim and has no say in his mother’s whims.
And I struggle with this…being at odds with my own daughter.
Today, I was going to post three great book reviews: Agnes Et Yves, by Patricia Herlevi, Bad Day, by Devon Cooper, and Vampire’s Trill, by Lorelei Bell. All three are great reads. Really. I loved each book. All well-written. That’s all I can do for now. Sorry, guys. I can barely focus at this moment.
Also, Lorelei Bell awarded me the Random Acts of Kindness Award, and I can’t even get my brain in order to do this properly, other than to say, thank you.
So for awhile I won’t be posting. I can’t do it all. The work, other peep’s edits, the baby, and getting Secondhand Shoes out. This all really sucks. Family comes first above all else.
But I will keep up with the blog reading/comments and from time to time I will keep you all informed on what’s going on until I can return fully.
Today, I have to prepare numerous documents for the courts that I’ll be filing on Tuesday. A lot of my time will be spent in the law library to aide me in acting as my own attorney on behalf of my grandson.
Glowstick needs me and so does my daughter.
Your prayers, positive thoughts, and aspirations are truly appreciated.
Shelly
Right now your grandson is your first priority. It's terrible that your daughter has gone down this path, and it may be a long road for you both, but the baby has to come first. We're all here for you.
ReplyDeleteI agree. Glowstick comes first, and I'm sorry that you're having to go through this. I'm sorry that your daughter has chosen this path to go down, but hopefully she will take the right one when she comes to the fork in the road.
ReplyDeleteAnd, as William said, we're all here for you. Big hugs to you. But, don't forget...you're important too. Don't forget about you.
Shelly, we are all here for you. Do what you need to do. So sorry about all of this, but Glowstick is the most important one, and you have to put family as a priority. We all understand. Sending you warm thoughts and hugs. I will keep you in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteAs always your family comes first. We'll think of you while you're away.
ReplyDeleteWell we'll miss you! Hurry back and good luck with your daughter. Glowstick will grow fast and I hope that her mother won't miss too much of the cute days. I'm inheriting my daughter's dog tomorrow because she can't find a suitable apartment that takes pets. So I will be a mommy to a small 4lb chihuahua starting tomorrow and even though I'd like to complain about it(because I'm sure I'll fall in love with her and then my daughter will come and take it away when she gets a better apartment) I can't see complaining when I hear about everything you're going through.Hugs big time!!
ReplyDeleteYour grandson and family comes first, of course. Addictions are something that we as humans have, because of the pleasure centers in the brain. We could crave something as innocent as coffee or chocolate, some need niccotine and there are those who have to have something that is far worse for them.
ReplyDeleteIt doesn't surprise me that someone like you has to step up and be the one to put on a coat of armor and be the one to step in and do this. It may not feel like it right now, but you will get through this. Whatever the dust leaves behind you know that Glowstick will be far better off, and you will have to remain strong for him. God bless you Shelly.
Family comes first. Always. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteWe're all here for you, Shelly...whenever and however you need us. I'm not going to say I know what you're going through, because I don't. I can't even imagine it. But I will say that I understand that you're overwhelmed and family is always the top priority. I'll be praying for you...all of you.
ReplyDeleteThanks, everyone. This was the one thing I didn't want to have to do because she'll absolutely hate my guts...for now anyway. I hope not forever. But now I have to become really firm with her.
ReplyDeleteIt's a hard decision, our family has had these situations too. My heart goes out to you and your grandson, and also to your daughter who's at a time where making the right decisions and carrying through with them is such hard painful work that I can see how it might feel impossible at times for her. Big journey ahead, but sounds like you're facing it with love and hope and that's the best you can do.
ReplyDeletePrayers for you and your daughter. Take care of your family. They always come first.
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear Shelly! I'm sending prayers and positivity all the way across the blogiverse-----
ReplyDeleteAnd Glowstick needs you... such a cute little kid! He's blessed to have you as a gran!
Whether she knows it or not, she needs someone to take care of her baby right now, and she's so lucky to have you. My heart goes out to all of you. Take all the time you need to take care of your people. We'll be here when you get back. Please, if you need any help, say so.
ReplyDeleteTonja, Charmaine, Michelle, and Alex:
ReplyDeleteThank you for your prayers.
Shelly
You are in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Lynn. This is really tough.
DeleteOMG Shelly! I really do know what you're going through...my family had an issue a few years back with the mother of my grandson. It was one of the most heart-wrenching hells my family has ever been through, and it did not end well for her...addiction is such an insidious disease..most recently in our family it has taken my brother..you're right, little Glowstick (love it!) is such an innocent, sweet little guy and this situation will pit your daughter against you for a while, but in the end it is the best thing for baby and mother...when the time comes that she beats this horrible beast to death, she will be so thankful to you for stepping in with all your love and support..it is a tough road. I know there is nothing that I can do, but please know that I'm thinking of you and wishing you peace and strength in this situation. And lots of *hugs* to that sweet baby! Take care Shelly.
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DeleteActually, its worse than heartwrenching because when I see my Tinkerbell, I see the little girl she once was. Sweet and innocent. And to some extent she still is...I just hope this crap doesn't steal her away from me.
Thank you.
Many, many prayers for you, your daughter, and Glowstick.
ReplyDeleteThank you. It's going to be a long tedious and tumultuous ride.
DeleteSending you my prayers and a big, fat, warm hug. May you succeed in all you have set out to do.
ReplyDeleteThank you soooo much. Blogger buddies are sooo good.
DeleteWill definitely keep you in thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Gossip-Girl.
DeleteYou and your family will be in my thoughts.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Golden.
DeleteGood luck with the challenges up ahead. Life can be tough on the blogging routine.
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Now with the baby and court stuff it's impossible. I have to make time to work on peep's edits and my own writing.
DeleteSo sorry.
ReplyDeleteOn the happy side, that is one kissable face.
He is definitely kissable and huggable.
DeleteI can't think of a better reason for a hiatus than to fight for what you think is right. Sending hugs your way--it sounds like such a nightmare situation. :(
ReplyDeleteThanks, Lydia.
DeleteWe'll miss you, Shelly! Family first, and it sound like you have your hands full! I'll be praying for you, your daughter and grandson! Hope all works out for the best!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Maria.
DeleteFamily should always come first. I hope you are able to settle what needs to be settled.sending warm thoughts and prayers your way.
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My prayers are still with you Shelly. Don't worry about the book review.
ReplyDeleteI hope balance is restored in your life soon and I know you are doing the right thing for Glow Stick and your daughter.
I hope everything's going well. I totally respect you putting family matters first.
ReplyDeleteI hope to get a clear path to update everyone on what's going on. But today the waters appear to be muddled. We're hanging in there despite my being emotionally and mentally drained from all this stuff.
ReplyDeleteThanks you for your prayers and well-wishes.
Shelly, you, your daughter and glowstick will stay in my thoughts. I hope this process goes as well as can be expected (better), and that you can save both your grandson and your daughter.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Shannon. This Friday Sir Poops and Hair Ball will be updating everyone. The fur-people are much stronger than me.
DeleteYou got it. I'll be praying. You know what I like about this? It's that you're not giving up and you're taking action that down the road will pay off. I promise. You're going to help save her. Hopefully she'll want to help save herself too and that will speed the process up.
ReplyDeleteThoughts and prayers!
Teresa
I've been every day for Glowstick's protection and for my daughter to have strength and guidance to get of the drugs and to get her life in order.
DeleteThank you for the prayers.
I'm so sorry to hear about this awful situation that you're all in. I do hope that things start to improve and rapidly.
ReplyDeleteMe, too, Rosalind.
DeleteI cannot imagine what you're going through. It takes great resolve to fight for the innocent party in all this without grieving for the possible damage in relationship with your daughter. I do hope it can all be worked out amicably - that the baby is protected, your daughter gets the help she needs (of course, she has to recognise that for herself first) and for YOU - trying to hold it all together!
ReplyDeletePraying for a good outcome for each of you - and for the strength and resources to keep going day after day!
Thank you, Sue. Sir Poops and Hair Ball will b giving their take and update on it tomorrow.
DeleteSorry about what you're going through :(
ReplyDeleteIt will all work out in the end. Just stay strong and don't be afraid to do what you think is right, no matter how tough it may be.
Jnana: It is a toughie. Especially when your daughter doesn't get it.
DeleteTears of empathy are filling my eyes. I pray you have the strength to get through this trial. Families seem to give us the strongest tests.
ReplyDeleteThank you,, Francene.
DeleteShelly, I probably don't need to say how much I'll be praying for your family. But I will be. Lots. Nothing harder than what you're going through. Tacking on family for the sake of family is terrible, and no one really ever seems to win. There's just lots of hurt.
ReplyDeleteBut you're doing the right thing. The baby is the one player in all of this who can't fend for himself. You've raised your daughter. You love her, undoubtedly. But she's an adult now, and she was given opportunities to make choices. Better or worse, her fate is ultimately her doing.
Glowstick deserves the chance for someone to raise him too. He deserves a chance to make choices. His fate (at this moment) is in all of your hands. You know that and you're doing something about it. That's a great, great thing.
Hope you'll come back to us when the dust settles (it will), and I'll certainly be waiting when you do.
Thank you, E.J. Since I last posted this another twist has happened. Updating tomorrow.
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